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Spanked kids did better off (L)

Acts-perienced Poster Posts: 11849 **6/9/17 10:43 am**

http://www.newsweek.com/some-kids-are-never-spanked-do-they-turn-out-better-223342
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depending on what age the spankings stopped

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 14803 **6/9/17 12:52 pm**

"...those who’d been spanked just when they were young—ages 2 to 6—were doing a little better as teenagers than those who’d never been spanked. On almost every measure.

A separate group of teens had been spanked until they were in elementary school. Their last spanking had been between the ages of 7 and 11. These teens didn’t turn out badly, either.

Compared with the never-spanked, they were slightly worse off on negative outcomes, but a little better off on the good outcomes.

Only the teenagers who were still being spanked clearly showed problems."

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 12817 **6/9/17 2:39 pm**

My wife and I are finding that as our kids grow, just the threat of a busted behind has a positive effect on their behavior. Our kids are ages 14, 12, 10, 7 and 5. With the youngest, we still may occasionally have to administer corporal discipline (one swat by their momma with a wooden spoon is usually quite sufficient), but in each case with the older ones, the need for such has become increasingly rare.

Re: depending on what age the spankings stopped

Hon. Dr. in Acts-celeratology Posts: 6385 **6/9/17 3:04 pm**

Hon. Dr. in Acts-celeratology Posts: 5923 **6/9/17 9:30 pm**

Well...this explain a lot!

Hon. Dr. in Acts-celeratology Posts: 6042 **6/10/17 9:23 am**

I got my last spanking...at 21.

Deserved it.

As I did the hundreds before that one.

Close as can be with my parents. Love them dearly, as they do me. That was just how it was done from their time and perspective.

When I had my own son, I asked my parents for advice. They told me, "We'd have spanked you less." I took that advice. I have never spanked my son, except on the hand...and that was all it took...and today he is kind and obedient, etc. My dad said I didn't start to "calm down" until I was 15 or so...and apparently I had a lot of unwinding to do, since I got my last spanking 6 years later.

Acts-celerater Posts: 566 **6/10/17 11:47 am**

I regret spanking my children. But, each person has to decide what works for them. I am just not sure that Jesus would hit a kid.

[Insert Acts Pun Here] Posts: 14803 **6/10/17 12:28 pm**

I am not against corporal punishment, but I often witness it being used in a poor fashion, imo. When an adult hardly has any positive interaction with the kid and then loses his temper and smacks the kid and only ever tells the kid no, stop, or quit, it just breaks my heart for the kid.
I'm thankful to God that my husband and I, in spite of all the things we did wrong, were both very involved in interacting with our son in positive ways.

COG Apostle...

Hon. Dr. in Acts-celeratology Posts: 6042 **6/10/17 4:25 pm**

Hon. Dr. in Acts-celeratology Posts: 5923 **6/10/17 6:23 pm**

We worked with a minister who taught, "Let the punishment fit the crime." Is what the child did worth punishing? Was it an honest mistake or clumsiness? Was it just being a kid? (Hitting his brother) Being mischievous? Or was he being rebellious or mean? IMHO, the last two are the only ones that deserve real punishment.

It also depends on the child. You can look at one child or give them a swat and reduce them to tears. Other kids might need a real spanking that will reduce them to tears and get their attention or take away their privileges (staying up late, taking away their phone privileges, etc.)

And please don't make them read the Bible for punishment. What does that teach them?

Our kids hated writing sentences 50 times or doing chores as punishment.

Don't make punishment overly severe if it's a minor offense.
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